Psychologist specialising in
relationships and attachment
— Elwood, Melbourne
Transforming old emotional habits that quietly shape your life and relationships.
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Daniel Lichtman ∙ Registered Psychologist, Melbourne
“Why this might be different”
Fifteen years working as an attachment-based couples therapist has given me a rare depth of understanding of relationship dynamics, and heavily informs the way I now help individuals cultivate healthier, more satisfying relationships.
How I Can Help
If any of the following sound familiar, we might be a good fit.
Relationship Difficulties and Conflict
You keep having the same argument, just with different words. You can see the pattern as it’s happening and still can’t seem to stop it. Maybe you’re questioning whether to stay or go, or trying to rebuild something that broke. The way things are isn’t working, and some part of you already knows that.
Attachment Patterns in Relationships
Steady everywhere except the relationships that matter most. A short reply from someone close can unravel your whole day. The closer someone gets, the more you find a reason to pull back. Or you give and give and still feel like you’re the one asking for too much. These patterns were set early, and they run quietly in the background until something brings them to the surface.
Narcissistic and High Conflict Relationships
You replay conversations afterwards, trying to work out how they turned on you. You’ve started to distrust your own version of events. You’re respected everywhere else, yet here you feel unsure of yourself. You feel like you are walking on eggshells and are chronically stressed around them; and that they are difficult to please. This is more common than people realise, and it’s not just about partners.
Read more about navigating high conflict and narcissistic relationships.
Anxiety
The worry, the overthinking, the tension that doesn’t switch off. Anxiety rarely shows up on its own. Underneath it there’s usually a story, often about a relationship, past or present, that hasn’t been resolved.
Trauma
Not always one big event. Sometimes it’s the accumulation, years of feeling unsafe, unseen or on edge. The body remembers even when the mind has moved on. Using approaches including EMDR, we work to help those experiences settle into the past where they belong.
Grief
One of the most disorienting experiences, and one of the least supported. The loss of a person, a relationship, an identity, or a future you thought you’d have. It deserves real space, and your own pace.
Life Transitions
A career change. The end of a relationship. Becoming a parent. Losing one. Midlife. Outgrowing who you used to be. These moments ask you to let go of what was before you know what’s next, and that gap can bring up everything.
Workplace Difficulties
The conflict with a manager, the burnout, the sense of being overlooked. It’s rarely just about the work. Often it connects to something deeper, and untangling the two makes both clearer.
Personal Growth and Emotional Intelligence
You’re not in crisis. You’re functioning well and know there’s more available to you, more depth, more connection, more ease. If that pull toward genuine self-understanding is familiar, this is for you.
WORK WITH DANIEL
Ready to change the patterns driving your relationships?
Let’s untangle the old habits and build sustainable ways to connect with ease, confidence, and clarity.