Daniel Lichtman MA (Couns Psych)

Registered Psychotherapist (PACFA Australia) and Certified Transformational Coach (Circling Institute, USA) with over 8,000 hours experience.


Based in the Melbourne suburb of Elwood, Daniel is available for in-person sessions covering Melbourne’s southeast.

Daniel White Integrated Way coaching and counselling Melbourne

Something out of balance? Does this sound all too familiar to you?

“My partner and I communicate poorly and its causing damage to our relationship.

“My job is so demanding that I barely have time to cultivate a great relationship.

“I’m having an affair and need support to navigate it.

“My boss/partner/ is a very difficult character and I want to manage the relationship more skilfully.

“My relationship is over. I could use some support dealing with the loss.

“I’m going through a divorce from a very difficult & controlling partner. Help!

“I want to get better at managing stress and anxiety.

Many people face similar challenges. Let me show you how I can help…


Recovering from betrayal and affairs.

Dealing with extended family and blended family issues

Repairing from chronic and repeated personal conflicts.

Recovering from a breakup or divorce.

Explore options before considering divorce

Developing a vision, model and practices for a successful intimate relationship.

Pre-marital counselling issues

Navigating past issues/trauma that's effecting your current relationship



How I Work

The core of this therapy is Daniel helping partners to strengthen their attachment bonds. You’ll learn how to become each other’s anchor. know how to make their partner feel safe, understood & prioritised. You will learn how to read and manage each others emotions, which will reduce stress, and increase your feeling of connection, safety and well-being and help you parent better.

You will learn how to draw out the best in each other, fostering healthy boundaries and practice an unambiguous and warm style of communication. You will also know your own needs really well and learn how to help your partner meet your needs.

Relationship distress results from perceived threats to basic adult needs for safety, security and closeness in relationships. Seemingly petty arguments that occur over and over again in a relationship generally stem from deeper needs for security and feeling understood.

Working with Daniel teaches both partners how understand the needs and how to give them to each other. When working with couples, Daniel employs his training in Emotion focused couples therapy (EFT) and Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).


Daniel’s approach to therapy for couples is highly practical. He helps by slowing things down, allowing a new, healthier conversation to emerge. As a therapist, he holds both partners accountable for the relationships, encouraging them to operate from the healthiest and most adult part of themselves so they can learn how to take care of themselves and each other. Couples develop an ‘owners manual’ for each other, in the words of Stan Tatkin, a significant influence on Daniel’s approach. When you work with Daniel you receive clear insight into the automatic behaviours you are operating from that don’t serve you or your relationship.

Who Is Daniel Lichtman?

Daniel Lichtman MA (Couns Psych)

I’m a relationship specialist.


I challenge and guide my clients to build and sustain successful and fulfilling personal and professional relationships (starting with the one with themselves).


With fierceness, humour and humility, I champion client’s causes.


My focus is working with high-functioning professionals who encounter interpersonal relationship challenges in all domains.


My clients include hedge fund managers, CEOs and CFOs of major international firms, homeless people, bankers, pilots, corporate lawyers, teachers, medical professionals, military personnel and rabbis.

Daniel White Integrated Way coaching and counselling Melbourne

Counsellor for Professionals in Melbourne and those seeking online counselling services.

With my wife Shelley and daughter Maddie.

Experienced Relationship Specialist In Melbourne

I’ve been a psychological health professional since 2002. I spend several hundred hours each year doing extensive training in the latest therapeutic and coaching modalities, in order to keep up with the cutting edge healing methods.


My expertise weaves the combination of years of mindfulness training and Buddhist psychology training with  advanced studies of cutting edge developmental neuroscience and attachment theory including Psychobiological approach to Couple Therapy and Emotion focused therapy


However, my own relationships are the real wellspring of my knowledge and wisdom. My experience as a committed husband, father, son and friend most heavily inform how I help others.

My Qualifications & Accreditations

Registered PsychotherapistPACFA Australia

Masters of Transpersonal Counselling PsychologyNaropa University (Boulder, CO)

Certified PACT(Level 2) Couple Therapist PACT Institute (Los Angeles CA)

Certified Gestalt Therapist (CGT)Boulder Psychotherapy Institute, (Boulder, CO)

Advanced Certificate in Emotional Focused Couple Therapy OCFI Ottawa Family and Couples Institute (Ottawa, Canada)

Certificate in Transformational CoachingAdvanced Transformational Coaching and Leadership Training Program (San Fransisco, CA)

Certified Group PsychotherapistBoulder Psychotherapy Institute, (Boulder, CO)

Certified EMDR PractitionerEMDR institute (Jerusalem, Israel)

Certified Transformational CoachCircling Institute, USA